"Do I have a mother like what's in that song what we singed at school?"
"What's a mother?"
They were questions out of nowhere, questions I wasn't exactly sure how to answer. I bumbled out something like "mother is another name for your mommy, mother is also something people do that love you...like Nonni (me) mother's you. Takes care of..nurture...love, like how your mommy loves you too."
I had to know about this song...what in the world was in the song? So, I called his school.
"Tell me about the song about mothers, Declan has some questions and I don't know what he's talking about"
The director of the school sang the song for me and I began to cry...it was emotional to know that the questions were starting already. I knew it would happen, I just wasn't ready for this this soon.
Here are a few lines "What's the nicest thing about your mother? She cooks and she sews and she washes all my clothes...She bakes cookies just for me and she helps me climb a tree..."
No wonder he was confused, I don't bake, sew or help him climb trees ;) LOL
Then the end said "what's the nicest thing, the very nicest thing... is that she's always there!" (tears)
I wept with the director on the phone. I asked that she ask the teacher to help the class to know that some people have other people, like grandparents, or other family member that take care of them. I don't want him to feel like his "family" is wrong.
Declan has a mother. He also has someone that mothers him. He also has grandmothers, neighbors, teachers, and friends who will mother him.
I feel one of the greatest sacrifices a mother can make is to allow someone else to raise their child. His mother loves him so much, sacrificially in fact.
Mother's Day has got to be tough for her. Pray for her, please.
Mother's Day is tough on a lot of people.
Pray for all the moms that made the sacrifice of adoption...and those trying to earn their place back through the foster care system and those that have lost that right.
Pray for those mothering the ones without mothers, step moms, foster moms, aunts, grandmoms and single dads.
Teach your children that there are all sort of families, and there isn't anything "wrong" with someone who is being mothered by someone else. Teach them to extend mercy not judgement in situations they don't understand.
Pray for those who have lost their mother. Death, illness, separation.
And lastly I think about those who desire to be mothers...and for whatever reason...aren't. Pray for them. That is a very painful situation that makes this holiday extra tough.
|Declan & me (Nonni) Feb 2014|
This was a card my daughter gave me when she was about 18...I loved the sentiment! It sums up how I feel about Mothers!
I had all kinds of MOTHERS... the beauty of their lives, drives me to live my life beautifully! click the link to go to a blog about them.
I pray that as Declan grows, he will see the beauty in the lives of ALL the different women who love him; appreciate all the different ways he's been mothered and know he is a better man because of it!
***BONUS*** Here he is singing the song!